5 Non-Traditional Things To Do At Your Wedding
Since my last “5 things…” blog post did so well, I figured why not make another! This week, I’ll be discussing the top 5 non-traditional things you should do at your wedding! These are things that deviate from the normal or typical things that everyone does on their wedding. It adds a bit of uniqueness to your big day that you will cherish and be thankful you did for many years to come.
Get ready TOGETHER
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So, this one is very un-traditional in terms of your wedding day but is something really cool and intimate that not many couples may consider. Some couples really enjoy the anticipation and lead up to the ceremony, myself included. However, if you’re more of a lowkey couple, who enjoys and values those little intimate moments together. I highly suggest getting ready together on the morning of your wedding day. Obviously, you can get completely dressed from start to finish together, or you can just do the finishing touches with each other at the very end. This could be helping put your husbands jacket on for him and fixing his tie, or helping your bride put her shoes on and the veil in her hair. I would also recommend getting ready together if you or your future spouse easily get nervous or anxious. One of the reasons a lot of couples I work with end up doing a first look instead of waiting until the ceremony is so that they can get a lot of the nerves out before they’re standing in front of all your family and friends. Again, this is definitely not for everyone, however, for the right couple this adds just that extra bit of special to the day.
A Beer Boy (or Girl)
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This one is a personal favorite of mine. If you’re a couple who likes to have fun, isn’t looking to have kids be a part of your wedding, and maybe has that one friend who is the life of the party, then I HIGHLY suggest a beer boy (or girl). This is a spin off of the traditional flower girl job that most a young cousin, niece, or sibling may do. I’d recommend this for the couple that have likely requested that their guests leave their kids at home, and are looking for a fun way to start off their wedding and get their guests drinking. I’ve seen a few really fun examples of a beer boy on TikTok and it always looks like nothing less than a really awesome time! I’ll probably say this for everything on this list, but again, this is obviously not for everyone!
A Private First Dance
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Traditionally, the first dance will take place after the ceremony and at the beginning of the reception. The newly wed couple will share in a first dance by themselves to a song of their choice in front of all of their family and friends. Something I’ve noticed that has been on the rise amongst couples and something I suggest, is doing a private first dance or, a private final dance at the end of your wedding. From start to finish, you and your spouse will be running around like crazy the entire day. It’s not uncommon for you to get little to no down time where it’s just the two of you by yourself. A private first or last dance, gives you both the opportunity to spend a little time alone and take everything in. You just married the love of your life after all! For those few minutes, you can forget about entertaining guests and all other distractions. It’s just you and your new husband/wife. Not to mention, the pictures will look INCREDIBLE!
Get a SMALL Wedding Cake
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Everyone has seen the pictures of these BIG, beautiful, and elaborate wedding cakes. They’ve been somewhat a staple in weddings for quite some time now. However, they can cost a ton of money and if I’m being honest, not many of your guests will eat it. Wedding cake while being such an important staple, has a reputation of just not being a very delicious desert. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had some INCREDIBLE cake, but I’ve also had some cake I’d like to forget about. What I would suggest, is if you’re going to get a wedding cake, get something small. If only for the tradition of getting cake cutting pictures. Let the main desert be something simple like cupcakes, cookies, donuts, etc. This will save you tons of money but will still allow you to get the pictures you want. In my experience, the deserts at weddings are almost always the one thing no one touches. It’s usually my favorite part though, because at the end of the night I can always grab a snack or two for the ride home once I’m finished taking photos. So, definitely think about what you want to do about your deserts and ultimately follow your heart. This is just a recommendation of mine from what I’ve seen firsthand the weddings I’ve worked.
Private Vows
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The last thing I have on this list is reciting your vows to each other in private. Vows are quite literally one of the most important, special, and sacred parts of your wedding. So it’s no surprise that some couples are opting to recite them to each other in private rather than in front of everyone. This again, is for the couples that would like to keep things a little more intimate between themselves. It’s an incredible way to promise your love and devotion to the love of your life without having to worry about your family and friends being there watching and listening to you both.
I hope you found some things from this list you may want to incorporate in to your wedding day. No matter what, remember the day is about YOU. If there’s something you want, DO IT! You’re the one spending all that money after all. Anyway, hope you enjoyed this weeks blog! I’ll talk to y’all next week. - Matt